I want to make one thing clear: this is no one's fault. We must each take accountability for our own implementation or submission to pressure or negative thoughts. And: It's a deeper, more personal problem then it appears to be.
Everyone has their own style of bloggging, that's the entire point. It's a way to express yourself and share with others in many different ways, should you choose. But, as is inevitable, some blog's are more "popular" than others, and this is often attributed to the way that they write, style their blog and posts, and the list is endless. Naturally, some other bloggers may feel a type of "peer pressure". That being said, I'm not here to write about the competition and the bitterness that's cropping up. I'm here to write about the heart of the matter. It's something not only in the blogging atmosphere, but in each and everyone of our lives. No doubt.
"Well, I don't write like that. Is my writing good enough?"
"I don't make my posts like that-they don't look as good. What if people are bored and dislike my style?"
"My blog design is not that pretty or updated. In fact, it looks ugly compared."
"Nothing interesting happpens in my life. What I write about is of no importance."
"My blog isn't good enough. My writing isn't good enough. What's the point? What's the purpose?"
"I'm not important enough to have a blog."
Contrasting.Comparative analysis.
What does this mean?
You may be comparing yourself to others. You may be contrasting yourself to others. Consciously or unconsciously. From self worth to the clothes you wear. From your spiritual life to your daily circumstances.
This is sad. This is true.
Who are you?The sad truth is that the truth is sad. ~Lemony Snicket
Are you so insignificant that you must gain your self worth from comparing yourself to others as if you are more important or better than them?
Are you so insignificant that you must diminish your self worth by contrasting yourself to others as if you are unimportant or less than?
Truth. The truth will set you free.
You are a being filled to the brim with heavenly light and potential. Beauty. Strength. Power. Love.
You are no more than the next person.
You are no less.
We are or are not what we allow and accept ourselves to be. That's where it begins and where it ends. No one else has the power to set our self worth for us.
Comparing and contrasting is usually not just that.No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.~Eleanor Roosevelt
It stems from something deeper.
A belief that you are not enough.
You are not enough.
How incomprehensible.
Is this being ungrateful?
For all He has given us. For all He has birthed in us. For all He has created us to be. For all that we are.
It is all about what you believe.
That's where it begins and that is where it ends.
What do you believe?
This is a gorgeous post, Katherine. I agree - so much.
ReplyDeleteI have compared myself to others many times. Though I know I shouldn't. I know that I should focus on being myself. And like you said, everyone does it. Whether it's on blogger, or at school. But I am good enough. I believe that. Great post Katherine. A good reminder to adjust my ways of thinking. :)
ReplyDeleteHow sad when it's over a month before I manage to comment... :P But this is a lovely post, and I'm glad you wrote it - to compare like that is to be ungrateful to the One who created us. I love the variety in everything that He has made, and I wish it was easier for people to remember that we're not supposed to be like everyone else! One type of personality or giftedness in a certain area is not better than another!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reminder. :)